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  • #31420
    MissJones86
    Member

    Hi everyone,

    Having bypass surgery on 24th and starting milk diet Monday (bmi low enough to do 1 week).

    I am starting to have last minute doubts that I’m doing the right thing. I’m 27 mother of 3, weighing in at 19.7 stone. I’ve got excess tummy skin from having my babies and my books aren’t very perky anymore anyway but I’m scared (I know this is totally vain of me to worry about it) that my body is going to just a load of excess skin. Part of me thinks if I don’t have the operation and lose weight over longer time my skin won’t be so loose. Has anyone that’s had the bypass not suffered with lots of excess skin because everywhere I try looking everyone has quite a bit of excess skin. Also worried that maybe I could lose weight by myself but then I think realistically I can’t. Please help. Tori x

    #50438
    janie61
    Member

    Hi

    I was two pounds heavier than you when i had my bypass done last year’ i have lost just under eight stones. yes i have some loose skin but not as much as some people. when i saw our dietitian she said that i look like i have never ben over weight (with clothes on mind) i have not done load of exercise like gym work or toning and i am sure i would look even better if i did, but all i can say is that i look loads better now than when i was fat and i am so much healthier. by the way i am 52 so my skin tone wouldn’t be as good as yours due to my age. i think that if you were going to lose weight the conventional way you would have done it by now and if it was that easy you wouldn’t even be entertaining the idea of surgery. loose skin is vanity, living a full and rich life with your children is trulyliving.
    Jane

    #50439
    MissJones86
    Member

    Thank you for that, just needed someone to remind me. I had a long hard think after I sent post and came to the conclusion that I will never be able to lose the weight without surgery I know this but I just think I started to get a bit panicky. In the future I need to remind myself that it’s a longer healthier life with my children. And I’m sure my partner will prefer me with a bit loose skin rather than the extra rolls of fat. I’m not normally a vain person but as the operation is getting closer it’s fresh in my brain how much I have ruined my body, wind I could go back to my teams and tell myself to take care of myself. But I can’t but I can look at this as a second chance. Thank you for you reminder

    #50436
    katy
    Member

    Hi tori

    I was the same weight as you when I had my bypass in march 2012. I have lost 11 stone and am now a size 8-10.
    I have a little bit of loose skin but its nowhere near as bad as I thought it would be!
    I’m not about to strut around in a skimpy bikini but I wore little shorts and a vest last weekend and you wouldn’t have known I was hiding a few saggy bits!!
    To be honest I have not even considered plastics because I am just so happy to be healthy and able to do things that I never thought I’d be able to!
    I have done a bit of exercise but I’m no gym bunny. I do Pilates and low impact exercise as I have back problems but I think this has helped a bit.
    I am of the opinion that no one is perfect and my slightly saggy bits are my battle scars….in some ways I like them because they remind me how far I have come in just over a year.
    Weight loss surgery is without a doubt the best thing I have ever done. I promise you won’t regret the decision to go for it
    Love
    Katy

    #50432
    Lauren
    Keymaster

    @MissJones86 29031 wrote:

    Thank you for that, just needed someone to remind me. I had a long hard think after I sent post and came to the conclusion that I will never be able to lose the weight without surgery I know this but I just think I started to get a bit panicky. In the future I need to remind myself that it’s a longer healthier life with my children. And I’m sure my partner will prefer me with a bit loose skin rather than the extra rolls of fat. I’m not normally a vain person but as the operation is getting closer it’s fresh in my brain how much I have ruined my body, wind I could go back to my teams and tell myself to take care of myself. But I can’t but I can look at this as a second chance. Thank you for you reminder

    I think your partner would prefer you with a bit of loose skin that burying you too young. i know that’s really harsh and to the point but it’s the truth. My husband loved me when I weighed over 26st and had a BMI of 64 but he loves me just the same now. i have had my excess tummy skin removed as you can imagine how much there was! However I did it to stop all the infections I used to get not to look better. the only plastics I would consider vanity wes my proposed brachioplasty (bingo wing removal!) everything else is for medical reasons.

    Your partner will love how much healthier and engaged in life you will be. He/she will love how much more you can all do as a family and most of all he/she will love how much happier you are. If you could have lost the weight by yourself you would already have done it. I lost the same three stones ten times over!

    We are all here to support and encourage you. Do this for yourself.

    Doodah x

    #50433
    Lauren
    Keymaster

    I actually went into Southampton the other day and was surprised that absolutely no one gave me a second look – I was wearing shorts!! It was SO liberating!!! Still not brave enough to bare arms though lol!

    Doodah x

    #50440
    MissJones86
    Member

    Thank you for your replay its just what I need to get my brain back into the right way of looking at things. I have only told a few of my family members and they are supporting me but not saying much other than my dad making sure I know what I’m doing and that I’m sure ( he would prefer band). So any concerns or worries I have can’t really be set straight by them.

    I know this is a morbid question but would love to know you views, my children are aged 2, 3 and 6, do you think I should write them a letter each for them to read when they turn 18 just in case something goes wrong or do you think I’m tempting faite?

    Tori x

    #50437
    Whitey
    Member

    Tori we have discussed this difficult subject on here before and I know a lot of us did write to our loved ones. I intended to do so but when it actually came down to it I just couldn’t do it. I did make sure I had a new Will in place and all my finances were in order but I couldn’t write any letters. I would do what feels right for you. I just had a sense that having the surgery was the right thing and nothing would go wrong. Good luck x

    #50434
    Lauren
    Keymaster

    @MissJones86 29042 wrote:

    Thank you for your replay its just what I need to get my brain back into the right way of looking at things. I have only told a few of my family members and they are supporting me but not saying much other than my dad making sure I know what I’m doing and that I’m sure ( he would prefer band). So any concerns or worries I have can’t really be set straight by them.

    I know this is a morbid question but would love to know you views, my children are aged 2, 3 and 6, do you think I should write them a letter each for them to read when they turn 18 just in case something goes wrong or do you think I’m tempting faite?

    Tori x

    I wrote letters to my husband, children, parents and sister. However, i was a very, very poorly woman at that point and it was a possibility that I might not make it. I had the wonderful Shaw Somers do my bypass and I came through it with flying colours! I still have the letters and I find them hugely comforting when I’m feeling sorry for myself. No matter how bad life gets, it will never get that bad again (God willing of course) and I can look back at the letters and realise just how far I have come.

    So, if it makes you feel better – write those letters.

    Doodah x

    #50441
    MissJones86
    Member

    Thank you, I’m not going to write them as I feel as though it’s too much of tempting fate.

    Can anyone help on a milk diet question? I’m on day 4 of 7 and I’ve got a runny tummy (sorry if TMI) is this normal?

    Tori x

    #50443

    This happened to me to missjones86… so I would say it was pretty normal… hope your doing ok on the milk ๐Ÿ™‚ not long for your surgery now ๐Ÿ™‚ xxxx

    #50442
    MissJones86
    Member

    Good to know thanks, feeling a bit weak and not 100% but I’m doing ok with it ๐Ÿ™‚

    #50435
    Lauren
    Keymaster

    How are you feeling now? Have you got the hang of it?

    Doodah x

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