[Doodah]

Treeza, you have brought up a particularly difficult subject – when to ‘tell it like it is.’

As you all know, I always try to be as diplomatic as I can when I am asked a direct question. This is because sometimes, I know in my heart that the person asking it could be upset by my answer – especially if it’s not what they want to hear.

When I took over the admin of this forum, I decided that there were certain ‘rules’ that we should all follow:

No judgement
No unkindness
No political/religious/cultural/gender/sexuality/disability slurs or negativity
No untruths.

I am very happy to say that I have never had to deal with any of the above ‘rules’.

Sometimes, when people ask for advice, they want to hear the truth in order to add it to their ‘pros and cons list’. I know I do! I ask for advice to hear the echo of what I already know in my heart to be true – whether or not it is what I WANT to hear. I hope I am making sense (always a first time haha!)

This forum and the people on it sincerely care about each other and try to support every single decision that is made by others – whether or not they agree with them. Therefore, it would be wrong for anyone to simply say what they think the other person wants to hear. It takes a huge amount of courage to ask the question: but even more to answer it truthfully.

We all want what’s best for you mccharm, and will support you no matter the decision at which you arrive.

Doodah x